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Wednesday, December 25, 2013

The Miracle of Christmas

At first glance, you may be likely to assume this is going to be a typical Christmas post, about family, traditions, nostalgia, and sweet Baby Jesus. While those are the things that make Christmas, well, Christmas, I hope this will be more than just a feel-good sentimental summation of everyone's favorite holiday. 

If you're like me, it is extremely easy to get caught up in the hustle and bustle, get-togethers, and traditional activities that Christmas brings. It's that time of year again and your main focus is getting your tree up and decorated, wrapping presents for your loved ones, caroling and playing your favorite holiday tunes, baking cookies, visiting family, and preparing food for the next Christmas gathering. 

For me, it's easy to go through the Christmas Cycle—sing all the right songs, buy everyone the perfect present, talk about the Christ Child, and pray for snow. 

But if I just take the time to think, really think... Christmas is more than just an annual cause for gifts and family time. Christmas is a miracle, a celebration.

In a way, I think the Christmas story sometimes gets viewed as a fairy tale, one of those stories we've heard countless times, so often that we skip and skim over the details, reciting from memory the events that make up the story. It's so familiar that we take for granted the little sparkling details of wonder and the miracles that light up the story of our Savior's humble birth. It has instead turned into the test of patience we must endure to get to the red and green clad boxes beneath the tree on Christmas morning.

In honor of Jesus' birth, I'd like to take the time to ponder the details of that long-ago Christmas, the beginning of the wonderful plan of a loving Savior coming to earth in human flesh to save all of mankind. 

First, there's Mary. Oh, to put myself in her shoes. A young, teenage girl. Engaged to be married, she finds out she's pregnant. An angel reveals to her that, yes indeed, the Holy Spirit has graced her with the miraculous gift of carrying the Savior of the world inside of her, which seems impossible to human logic, since in no way could a virgin possibly be with child. I can't imagine the mixed feelings flowing through this young woman. I can't imagine trying to convince my fiancé that I am pregnant with "God's child." Or my parents. I feel like it would be tough getting them to buy that one. At least Joseph got a visit from an angel for some proof. I imagine life would have suddenly become difficult, preparing to take on the role of a mother while feeling vulnerable and looked down upon, despite having done no wrong. Oh what a faith booster this experience had to have been for Mary.

Then, Joseph. What loyalty, faith, and courage this young man displayed, choosing to stick by the side of his future bride, when it would most likely cost him everything he had. His reliance on God, and obedience, is amazing. Another piece of the story.

The Shepherds. The fact that a huge multitude of heavenly beings lit up the night sky in a field in the middle of nowhere, proclaiming to a bunch of lowly shepherds that a Savior was being born, is just mind-boggling. I mean, of all the people to choose from, God chose to send the angels to the shepherds. There would have been plenty of people in town; after all, there was a census taking place. But I'm guessing it wouldn't have mattered that much to the others, who would've been preoccupied with the hustle and bustle of their own lives. So God went to the common, simple shepherds, who immediately responded with joy and determination to find the newborn king. 

The Wise Men. Talk about persistence. It's pretty incredible that these wise guys traveled many miles to finally meet the Christ Child, presenting Him with the very best gifts they had to offer. The miraculous guiding light of the star over Bethlehem adds to the wonder of the story of that first Christmas. 

The Scene. It's funny how God works. What makes sense to us in our small, finite minds, what seems most logical, is often the exact opposite of what God sees fit for us. In the same way, His plan for the birth of the King is a lot different than the grand entrance I would have dreamed up. Thinking about the King of kings entering the world, I would have chosen a significant, majestic procession, a splendid announcement, a magnificent ceremony. But God had other plans, and rightly so. Jesus Christ came as a humble servant, not to be served, but to love others and draw them to Him. What better way to display his meekness than a quiet birth in a dirty, smelly stable. Oh the irony of delicately wrapping the newborn Savior of the world in strips of cloth, and placing him in a used feeding trough. 

God uses the little things to show His great love for us. Praise God for being a God of humility, power, and love, Who displays his love for us through service and sacrifice, not requiring anything of us that He hasn't already been through or done. Praise God for this celebratory season, this holiday of remembrance of His great love for us in coming to earth that quiet, holy night. Merry Christmas!

"Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the form of a servant, being born in the likeness of men. And being found in human form, he humbled himself by becoming obedient to the point of death, even death on a cross." 
-Philippians 2:5-8

~MM

Tuesday, December 10, 2013

A Lesson in People-Pleasing

I had a mini revelation last night.

Well, maybe a bigger one than I thought. 

I was talking on the phone with my boyfriend when he pointed out that every single question he'd asked in the course of a few minutes had resulted in a non-committed answer from me. I'd given him a handful of I dunnos, some ehh, I have no ideas, and didn't seem very certain about anything.

As I thought about it for a second, I told him, "You know what? I've realized lately that I don't have much of an opinion on anything and that kinda frustrates me. I just don't really have any black and white opinions on anything."

He paused, then proceeded to give me some valuable insight. "I think you are afraid to have a black or white opinion on things because you're a people pleaser and you're afraid to disappoint or offend others."

He nailed it on the head.

A few months ago he'd told me something similar... I am a people pleaser. I strive to please everyone, and in the process I often wear myself out because I'm too afraid of disappointing others or letting someone down.

The same thing applies to personal opinions. In debating a topic, or having a discussion about two sides of a matter, I often find myself weighing the sides, picking and choosing ideas from both stances that I agree with. While there may be pros and cons to both sides of a matter, I finally discovered that often times I refrain from developing a solid opinion in order to prevent conflict; this revelation didn't sit well with me. 

I think I've subconciously known this about myself for some time, but never really took the time to realize how true it is, and that it's not exactly a good thing. I am afraid of disappointing others, letting them down, and having them dislike me. I have fallen into the trap of constantly trying to please others. And as a result I don't speak my mind very often in fear of hurting or upsetting others who may have different opinions than me.

But I need to get over my fear of disappointing people.

"You're not gonna please everybody, that's just the way it is," Noah told me. "You're gonna have opinions that are totally different from others. But you just gotta get past that. If they can't get past it, they're not worth spending your time with and investing time in."

I am always going to disagree about certain things with other people; that's just the way it is. And that's not necessarily a bad thing, if I stand firm in what I believe and respect others for their opinion. But most importantly, I need to let go of my fears of others' perceptions of me and not let other people's opinions affect who I am and what I believe.

And I don't feel like I have a problem with giving in to peer pressure or getting easily swayed by other people; I merely think I place to high a value on gaining people's approval, and I too often fear what other people think of me. When in the big picture, their opinions of me are irrelevant, because the only thing that really matters is how God sees me, which is through eyes of unending love and grace. He's the One I should seek to please, and the only One that brings the purest joy through pleasing.


"I know your works: you are neither cold nor hot. Would that you were either cold or hot! So, because you are lukewarm, and neither hot nor cold, I will spit you out of my mouth." —Revelation 3:16

For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God? Or am I trying to please man? If I were still trying to please man, I would not be a servant of Christ. 
—Galatians 1:10


But just as we have been approved by God to be entrusted with the gospel, so we speak, not to please man, but to please God who tests our hearts. 
—2 Thessalonians 2:4

~MM